I often come across To-Do Lists that enumerate the things that I must do in, or add to my already very-full life. And while these lists often shine light upon areas of life that are thirsting for attention, I find that incorporating more into my life is not what I need. Rather, what I need is less. The following is a list to things to start
Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is far too short to spend time with the people that drain your energy. Re-evaluate those that do not fulfill or replenish you in some way.
Stop running from your problems. Know that you cannot change what you do not confront, and know that this is not easy nor instantaneous. But the delayed gratification is indeed worth the effort and the wait.
Stop lying to yourself. Let’s be honest. We aren’t really fooling ourselves anyway, are we?
Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. Know the difference between selflessness and self-neglect.
Stop trying to be someone you’re not. Be authentic, or the you that feels most like yourself. And know that this this good
Stop trying to hold onto the past. Let go of the past and instead change your relationship with it Change how it lives within you.
Stop being afraid of mistakes. Mistakes can be inconvenient. But they need be nothing more than that. So, dare, do, and adapt. And use old mistakes propel and guide you, not define you or bring you down.
Stop trying to buy happiness. Happiness does not have a price. Know that your worth is intrinsic, and do not attach a price tag to it.
Stop looking to others for happiness. We cannot offer nor experience what we already do not carry within us.
Stop being idle. Go and do. Go and be. This is called living
Stop waiting to be ready. More often than not, we will never feel quite “ready”. Know when to act, ready or not.
Stop being in relationships for the wrong reasons. Bad company is not a good substitute for loneliness. Choose wisely, and do not force the process. And remember that all relationships have something good to offer, even if it is a hard lesson learned.
Stop competing, and stop being jealous. There will always been someone “better” and you will always be “better” than someone else.
Stop complaining. You are not a victim, and no one is out to get you. The curveballs of life are meant to shift your direction, not derail you.
Stop holding grudges. Hatred is toxic. Especially to the self. Forgiveness is the anecdote. For both the self and others
Stop letting others bring you down. Take the high road so they have a place to step up to. Show them that there is a better way.
Stop explaining yourself. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe you, anyway.
Stop doing the same things over and over. Or you’ll keep getting the same things over and over. Distance yourself from old patterns and learn.
Stop overlooking small moments. They are bigger than you think.
Stop striving for perfection. Instead, strive for effective
Stop following the path of least resistance. Take the road less traveled by.
Stop saying it’s okay when it isn’t. It is okay to be not-okay sometimes. Rather, sometimes, this is exactly what you need to do in order to pick up the pieces and be okay again.
Stop blaming others. If you blame others for what goes wrong, who gets credit for what goes right? Own your life.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone. This is impossible and it leads to burn out . Narrow your focus and be good at what you do.
Stop worrying. Know when to let go and when to transform that energy into action, and watch the world change.
Stop focusing on what you don’t want. Invest in positive thinking, and you will attract wonderful l things.
Stop being ungrateful. There is always, always something to be grateful for. Always.